To Those Who Worry, Fear and Doubt – Me Ra Koh

If you struggle with worry, fear, and doubt, you are in good company.

Fear and doubt are like old, unwanted companions. For years, I used to wake up to them sitting on the edge of my bed, ready to tell me all their new thoughts, new fears, new doubts, I hadn’t thought of the day before. Their voices can be so loud, and the evidence around me can be so overwhelming, I feel like I’m living my own version of A Beautiful Mind.

This day-to-day reality is why confidence has been my heart’s mission for twenty plus years.

She Asks Me to Fly with Her

When confidence shows up, it’s like a superhero arriving with a red cape blowing in the wind.

She takes my hand and asks me to fly with her … to get a bigger picture of my circumstances, my future, my past.  When my feet lose contact with the ground, I see how much more there is than the present troubles I’m facing.  I realize how small worry, fear, and doubt are. They can’t even fly. They can only wave, jump up and down, shout to me, but they are still tiny. From up high, they are easily overlooked.

Confidence gives me, the power to shift how I feel despite my circumstances. 

But I’m often in the trenches, not up high.

So I do my best to find ways to feed confidence while I try to starve worry, fear, and doubt.

As I think about the new year approaching, I must admit, I see worry, fear, and doubt already there. 

They are jumping up and down on the New Year’s horizon, trying to grab my attention.  They are never lacking diligence and have already done all the fact checking as to why I need to seriously worry, fear, and doubt about the new year. And they are passionate about their cause. After all, they insist they are only working for my benefit, trying to keep me prepared, to not be taken off guard, disappointed or disillusioned. That is what I risk when I hope for other companions. That is the gamble with faith — believing in what you can’t see.

They Offer Me the Blue Prints

Worry, fear, and doubt offer me the blue prints for how to navigate the future with success when the future isn’t even here yet. 

When I look at their blue prints, I feel the stress of trying to walk through a field of land mines blindfolded. As faithful as worry, fear, and doubt are — showing up every morning to overwhelm me — they are never there to help guide me through the land mines. They are never faithful about helping me when I’m lost.

They only make me feel more lost.

Putting Me in the Horizon

So I’m going to put myself in the horizon of the new year. Instead of allowing worry, fear and doubt to be my only greeters to the new year, I’m going to show up and wait for me. How? I wrote a letter to  myself tonight.

I didn’t write a letter to Santa, but to me. I wrote a letter to the woman who will enter the new year. I wrote down everything I could think of that she needs to hear. After all, I know her better than most.

I Held Nothing Back

I wrote down all the things she is worrying, fearing and doubting about for the new year already.

I wrote about the hope, the impossible being possible, and the future that awaits her… that may surprise her. Instead of writing about all the things that could go wrong, I wrote about all the things that could go right. I cast vision for her. I spoke of life and possibilities. I was her friend tonight.

I folded the letter, put it in an envelope, and stamped it. I’m going to mail this letter to myself on December 31st. That will be four weeks from now. Four weeks of change will happen between now and then.  Four weeks of me evolving.  And if the worry, fears and doubts are still faithful to show up every morning, I want her to receive a letter from someone who gets her, knows her, and is cheering her on.

This whole exercise of writing a letter to yourself may sound completely crazy.

But I promise, it’s quite magical. When I’m facing a new season, some kind of transition, I write a letter to myself. When our family returned from Thailand the first time, after living in the jungle for six weeks, I wrote a letter to myself. By the time you open up your letter, after a few weeks have passed, your heart is amazed at how you needed to hear these words, this encouragement, today.

When I look out on the horizon of the new year, I now see four figures.  I still see worry, fear, and doubt. They are busy pitching tents and settling in.  But I also see a fourth figure.  She is waving to me, excited, inviting me to join her. She is me. She is confidence, faith and joy.

I run to meet her!

still we rise!

m

p.s. If you resonate with this post, I wonder if it’s time to RISE! To do something TRANSFORMATIONAL that shuts up the voices of worry, fear and doubt. Have you heard of our Rising Phoenix Experience?

What is a Rising Phoenix Experience?

This is about you seeing the truth of who you are. When you see your resilience on the wall every day, it transforms you from the inside out. If you are overwhelmed with all the reasons why you shouldn’t invest time or money in yourself, I want you to pause and think of all the obstacles you have overcome in your life whether it’s a weight loss journey, depression, anxiety, cancer, seasons changing with kids leaving the nest, loss of a loved one.

Have you been promoted in your career or pivoted with resilience? The list of how we rise like a phoenix to overcome the odds goes on and on. But so many of us struggle with taking time to acknowledge it.

You Give to Everyone Around You

You’ve most likely given to everyone else. The time has come to give something transformational and lasting to you. Just read the following stories.

Have you achieved a weight goal? Read Jamie’s inspiring story of never going back after significant weight loss.

Maybe you need a deeper healing from childhood trauma. You’ve done the counseling but still struggle to see the truth about who you are. You may relate to Tiffany’s story.

Or maybe you’re turning 40, 50, 60 or 70+ and feel the need to reflect and celebrate who you are and the possibilities of what this next season of life holds? 

The first step is to fill out our Phoenix inquiry; CLICK HERE.

Michelle Found Courage to Step Beyond Grief

Meet Michelle. She is definitely someone who has known great courage. At one time, she was an interrogator for the US military in the Middle East. This 5’4 woman knows confidence. But the loss of her mom swallowed that confidence.

There are some seasons in life when we feel unshakeable courage and other seasons that leave us feeling lost. After great loss, it takes great courage to step forward. Maybe you relate to Michelle’s story.

Meet Our Oldest Rising Phoenix

She was in her 80s and never had her makeup and hair done. I’ll never forget the giggles we had over watching Oma that day in the studio. This beautiful 4’9 woman came to the United States with Opa when she was only 23 yrs old and pregnant with her first baby. All they had was $50. Leaving behind family and all that was familiar in the Netherlands, they boarded a cargo boat and set out to make a new life.

Krista, Oma’s granddaughter, had a FIORIA family experience with us last year. When she saw us launch the Rising Phoenix Experience, she thought of her grandma. Oma is the heart of their family and lived eighty plus years as a rising phoenix.

Click Here to meet Oma, our oldest Rising Phoenix!

Crystal drove to us from Las Vegas.

A single woman who has always been known for being responsible and quiet, yet there is another side of her that wants to come out. A side that is brave and takes risks—that believes she is worthy of doing something special not just for others but for herself too. A year after her Rising Phoenix Experience, she sent us photos of her traveling solo in Europe! She told us how much her life has changed from seeing who she is every day when she looks at her Phoenix portraits!

What truth do you need to be reminded of daily to unleash your purpose and potential?

Meet Our Youngest Rising Phoenix, a Miracle Photo Shoot!

CLICK HERE to see the most miraculous Rising Phoenix portraits!

This is the first time Isabella has ever looked at the camera and smiled. This was a miracle photo shoot.

I’ll never forget my first Discovery Call with Isabella’s mom. She wasn’t sure this was a good idea because Isabella is very sensory sensitive. Photo shoots have never gone well in the past. She felt very hesitant to believe this photo shoot could be a success.

I felt her words on such a deep level. I didn’t want to set them up for disappointment either. But I just knew that there was something so special about this whole thing. I told her, “There are many doubts and fears I can struggle with, but this is something I am confident I can do.” She borrowed that confidence, and we witnessed a miracle photo shoot.

All these people have something in common, they were ready to …

Rise above the ashes of what other people have said
Rising above their fear and doubts
Embracing their Rising Phoenix within.

Through our Portrait of a Phoenix Experience, they not only did something special for themselves but also received something transformational.

I invite you to experience it too!

Your Rising Phoenix Experience includes:

• Signature Phone Calls with You and Loved Ones (collection of words that give you life)
• Professional Hair & Makeup
• Wardrobe Consultation & Vision
• Rising Phoenix Photo Shoot with Me Ra Koh (Sony Artisan, Disney Host, and Live with Kelly & Ryan Guest Expert—You’re in good hands. I will pose you, and Brian will drop shadows and light on you in the most flattering way that radiates your Rising Phoenix.)
• Same Day Cinematic Reveal & Custom Design Session with our In-House Design Specialist
• Beautiful Artwork of Your Rising Phoenix, Custom Designed for the Best Place where it will Speak Truth to You Every Day.

CLICK HERE to fill out the inquiry and begin your Rising Phoenix Experience!

I can’t wait to speak soon! Still we rise!
Me Ra